Grieving the Loss of a Pet During the Holidays

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Losing a beloved pet is always hard, but it can be especially difficult to cope with that loss during the holidays. Know that you are not alone. Here are some gentle reminders* to yourself that we hope will provide comfort if you’re grieving the loss of a pet over the holidays:

  • I will experience many emotions during the grief process, and that’s OK. There may be sadness, anger and possibly some joy. I will try to be mindful of these emotions when they happen and accept them. None of them are off-limits. They just are.
  • I will give myself permission to set boundaries with those around me. I’ll allow myself to say no (or yes), depending on what I need at the time, with no apologies.
  • I will control only what I can control. I will not focus on the things that I can’t control.
  • I will be mindful of the situations that I’ll face during the holidays and plan ahead.
  • I will be kind to myself and treat myself like I would any dear friend, with gentle words and caring thoughts.
  • I will remind myself that I am grieving because I loved and shared. When the emotions of grief show up, I will graciously welcome them.
  • When I can’t think of anything else to do, I’ll remember that I can help others.
  • I will reach out when I need a hand to help me along. I’ll remind myself that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.
  • I will give myself permission to just be — to allow space for myself, for my emotions, for the good, for the sad, for the joy.

*Adapted from Two Hearts Pet Center

And here are some additional ways to help you cope with losing a pet: